I’m a firm believer that we should think of our friendships as love stories. Unlike in the movies, our friends aren’t just side characters who help us find and fall in love with that one special person. Our friends—the really good ones, anyways—help us find ourselves. (They also help us find really good lighting, great music, the perfect outfit, the right words for that risque text—and those are all forms of love in my book.) So when I first started learning about the five love languages—words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch—I wasn’t only thinking of them in the context of romantic relationships, I was also thinking about them in a friendship context. Thinking about love languages became really important for my friend Helen and me. We became really close really fast the summer before our senior year of college. We had both felt a bit stifled in the environment where we were living and going to school. But as friends, we made space (even when there didn’t appear to be any) for both of us to fully be ourselves, whether that meant talking over episodes of Broad City, spending hours getting ready to go out together, and then ultimately, showing up late and overdressed, but that mattered to us. Our friendship has always just made sense. She loves to cook for friends, I love to eat family-style meals. Her favorite artist is Beyonce, mine is Solange. It just makes sense. So when things started feeling off toward the end of our senior year, it was hard to figure out exactly what was going on. I was more busy with school than I had ever been and Helen was grappling with the stress and anxiety of picturing life after graduation. We started getting more argumentative and short with each other. And we stopped supporting each other’s projects as much as we did before. I…

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